Learning Life's Lessons

Life is a Classroom

Have you ever truly considered the relevance of the statement that life is our classroom? If you take just a little bit of time, I am sure you can recall at least one unpleasant situation during your adult years which came "full circle" and presented itself to you perhaps 5, 10, 15 or more years later. This would have been a situation which may have been buried in the recesses of your mind and not thought about once it was originally over. Then months or years later, it comes crashing back into your life either involving the same person(s) or with new faces but similar circumstances.

There are at least a couple of ways to regard the resurfacing of these circumstances. This could be a "test" from the Universe, to see whether or not the lessons were learned, or this could be a "wake up call" for you to realize that you should never take anyone for granted; especially those who are closest to you (in kinship as well as physical proximity). Remember that even though we would like to give others the benefit of the doubt as we would want from them as well, if someone shows themself to you in a certain light and over the years have not changed, then exercise caution when in their presence. See others for who they are, as opposed to who you would like them to be. You may even wish to remove yourself from their presence if their manner of interacting has the potential of being physically, mentally/emotionally or spiritually damaging to you. At least consider grossly limiting the amount of time that you are around that person. Bear in mind though, that in removing yourself from their presence, you may also have to remove yourself from the presence of others related to that person. That may be a difficult decision to make, but the decision becomes easier if you remember that your role is only to look out for your own best interests. Others will look out for their own best interests, so respect their choices without interfering.

In avoiding repetition of unpleasant lessons, it is wise to immediately take action. Analyse what the results were the first time around and then decide what you must do this time. You may need to draw on your all of your skills of diplomacy, especially when more than one person in common is involved. Exercise care not to talk against anyone to the others; especially when mates are involved. Remember that no matter how right you may be, no one is going to side with you against their mate. That is just a fact of life. Also, in dealing with others who have mates, remember that there is probably nothing that you can tell someone about their mate that they don't already know; perhaphs not verbatim, but they know. They may despise the same qualities in their mate which offends you, however they have either chosen to live with it for various reasons of their own, or they are planning to remove themself from the relationship but just haven't told you. So in learning life's lessons, examine your own motives if you ever feel you need to tell someone something negative about their mate. After examining your own motives, if you still feel strongly about your position, then be prepared for your friendship to end after you state your position. Perhaps that might be what is needed at that particular time.

In the Meantime...

In the wisdom of the Tao, it is stated that no action is a form of action. It may be profitable for you to just watch and be an observer for a time. Do not take any action. Do not speak any words. Observe what is going on around you, and allow the Universe to make revelation to you as situations unfold.

Use the spiritual tools of prayer, meditation, visualization and affirmation. Journalise your thoughts and feelings for review at a later date. Let your writing journal become your friend. Remember, once words leave your mouth, you may retract them if you will, but they are seldom forgotten, especially when dealing with sensitive issues. It may also be helpful for you to find someone whom you can confer with. This should be someone whom you can trust, who you know will not judge you, and who can be objective and detached from the situation. This probably excludes most friends and family members! If you choose to approach someone for counsel, it is a good idea to let them know whether you are seeking another opinion, or whether you merely need a sounding board at the moment. This will ensure that you will receive a quality of counsel which better meets your needs at the time.

Karma and Reincarnation

Have you ever considered the possibility that at least some of the situations you encounter in your classroom of life may be karmically related? There are many schools of thought which teach that we return to this Earth plane several times after transitioning in order to learn lessons which we failed to learn in previous incarnations. In line with that thought, it is said that people tend to reincarnate within various groups. As such, the faces may change and even the genders may change, but those energies which are together to fulfill certain purposes will find themselves drawn to each other in future incarnations until those purposes are served.

Some Final Thoughts

Learning life's lessons may be as difficult or as easy as you choose to make them. Accept mistakes as being a part of life, and know that each day you have the opportunity to create a new life for yourself if the current one is not working for you. You have the opportunity each day to change as long as there is still breath in your body. As human beings, we tend to be harder on ourselves than anyone else can be, so remember to love yourself and forgive yourself daily. As much as possible, associate with others who value and appreciate you, and who validate you.

We are all broken vessels; if you know that someone is experiencing so much pain that they are unable to see yours, it may be wise to avoid them so that you don't fall prey to becoming one of their victims while they are trying to heal. You need not abandon them, rather, choose your role in their life with care.

Seek the Most High daily and remember "you are loved."

Queen Mother SpiritChange

Brooklyn, NYC, USA

February 2012